ANOTHER KITCHEN MAKEOVER....

I did a “mini-makeover” a couple of years ago when I installed a new microwave and stove…

….and last year I finally added a new matching dishwasher.

I also did a little makeover on the dining room last year and I LOVE IT!

I sat on my hands long enough that the “white painted cabinet” craze is slowly dying off. Fortunately I don’t have the dreaded “honey oak” cabinets and still like my cabinets…and truthfully I loved the granite tops when I first installed them.

But for years I have been on a quest for “lighter and brighter” without painting the cabinets.

Two years ago I replaced the black bar top with white quartz…and I have coveted white quartz counter tops since!

I LOVE IT!!! I have Google and Pinterest searched enough to know that I would love white quartz tops with the “paprika cherry” stain cabinets and a travertine backsplash.

To give myself a “visual,” I bought some white shelf liner and white duct tape and covered one entire side of my kitchen with it…just to make sure I would like a “white” counter top.

I LOVE IT!!!

The “visual” really sealed the deal for me.

For several days I debated on whether I should get tops that have “veining” in them or just plain white. I even contemplated going back to the shop and picking up a few samples of quartz with some movement (the unique pattern of patterns that flow through the piece of stone) in them.

I decided the travertine has plenty of movement and “veining” and really needs to stand alone…I ‘m concerned that any “movement” in the quartz would “compete” with the travertine and make it all too “busy.”

This is my personal preference…either “movement” in the backsplash or top…but not both! I know people do both, but again, personal preference.

So white it is.

They measured and templated this week…

… and the new tops should be installed in next weeks!

I ordered a new black stainless single bowl sink! I would love to have a new black stainless faucet but, HOLY COW, those puppies are expensive so I may wait on that luxury!

I can’t wait to share!

Maintaining a positive attitude during these uncertain times....

I am fortunate…my life has changed little since the entire nation went on lock-down. I own rental property so I have to go to work. Brian is in the grocery business so he has to go to work.

We tend to be “home bodies”…we rarely eat out, the last movie we saw in a theatre was “Shrek,” we bike and have a home gym so we don’t “go” to a gym…our favorite hobby is fly-fishing and that is a pretty solitary hobby. After raising 5 kids who participated in baseball, football, choir, band, softball, theatre, etc…we are enjoying our “down time.”

Little has changed. A few tiny sacrifices…we can’t go to our favorite breakfast restaurant on the weekends…but I cook at home. We kinda miss our weekend run to Starbucks but that is a habit we probably need to break anyway. I don’t go to the grocery store with Brian anymore, but trust me, not something I miss!

The biggest sacrifice has been our family Sunday dinners…I miss my kids and our grandpuppies terribly. I am hoping we can all have a big Mother’s Day celebration next month…fingers crossed!

But let’s be honest…regardless of how little my life has changed, the “negative” and “fear” is all around.

This is one of those times when we all need to dig deep to find SOMETHING to be grateful for and really focus on that…because if we don’t keep a positive mind set, it is going to be too easy to mentally dive into a pretty dark place.

There are so many negatives that can consume our minds…unemployment, finances, basic necessities, home schooling, your future retirement… just your future in general.

Here are my “tips” for not letting the “negatives” overwhelm you

1) Edit your social media. Get rid of any “friend” who is always posting anything political or negative. If they don’t post fuzzy kitty videos or dog memes. delete them. Be VERY selective about who and what is allowed into your brain! Critically limit your “online” social time in general.

2) Seriously limit your news consumption. Personally, I would limit it to maybe one national and one local segment a day…if that. It is one thing to stay informed, it is another to let it take over. This includes your “online” time….social media is chalked full of “news” links…AVOID THEM!

3) Get out and get some exercise and fresh air. Seriously, GET OUTSIDE!!!! Even if you have to bundle up or carry an umbrella. Here is a good swap…for every minute you watch the news, you walk. That will cure you from sitting around sucking in the neganews. Walk, ride a bike, pull some weeds, plant some flowers…do something outside every day!

4) Only read uplifting and positive books, magazine, and articles. This is not the time to amp up your “fear level” by reading scary books…this is not a time to read doomsday crap. Keep it positive and uplifting.

5) Eat right. Sugar and carbs mess with your body and your brain. Again, not the time to be chowing on empty calories that don’t do anything but hurt you. Eat healthy if for no other reason than you need to be in top shape if you do get this nasty virus!!!

6) Keep a set sleep schedule. Go to bed, WITH THE TV OFF, at a decent hour and get up at the same time every day. Make your bed so you aren’t tempted to crawl back in it during the day.

7) Make a list of everything you want to accomplish the next day. I’m not saying you WILL get it all done…you may have to carry something over to the next day and maybe the day after that…but at least it is in writing and you know what you WANT to accomplish!

8) Take a shower, fix your hair, and get dressed. Sitting around in your pajamas all day is just an invitation to waste the day away.

9) Do something kind for someone else. Run an errand for a neighbor, volunteer, buy UPLIFTING books online and send them to neighbors and friends, go be a dog walker at the local animal shelter, clean out your closets and donate stuff you really don’t need! Leave your own pity-party and DO SOMETHING for someone else.

Stay focused on the positive. You may have to really dig deep to find it, but trust me it is much easier to dig deep to find a positive than it is to dig yourself out of a negative “pit.”

A friend posted this on Facebook…I stole it because it is exactly the kind of thing you need to print off and post on the fridge and bathroom mirror!!!! Positive affirmations!


I’ve posted this before and I will post it again….

And remember, EVERYONE around you is experiencing loss and fear…they are GRIEVING just like you…so be kind and respectful and patient.

Remember, AND UNDERSTAND, that fear, frustration and hurt are the catalyst for ANGER!!! Everyone is fearful and frustrated right now.

Not an excuse for bad behavior but knowing this may help you deal with your own feelings and understand the emotions and behavior of those around you!

Stay safe and healthy!

My soap box...to pay or not to pay your rent.

Today I want to use this blog platform as a soap box.

I know everyone is suffering right now…physically, psychologically, emotionally and especially financially.

But people, you need three things in life to survive and as a landlord I provide two of those things…shelter and water.

I am a landlord. I am the person who many believe is one step above (or below depending on your personal experiences) a used car salesman. I do want to point out that my apartments are “affordablet” units…so they are not expensive to live in and have very few frills. For those of you who live in areas with higher rent or who live in “high dollar” rental dwellings, this “rant” may not apply to you entirely…but PLEASE consider the underlying message.

I am a good landlord. I make sure maintenance is done when needed and the grounds are well maintained. I make sure units are SUPER clean before new tenants move in. I make sure there are no bugs. I work hard to keep the area safe and crime free.

And more importantly I work with people when they can’t pay rent for REASONABLE reasons. Not “I lost my job”…you literally can walk two blocks from my complex and get a job…even now. “My car broke down”…I am 1/2 block from a bus stop.

My favorite…an excuse from a stripper… “I couldn’t work this week because I was….” Let’s just say it was “her time of the month.” I kid you not.

Right now, times are tough…but I live in a state that is not under a “shelter in place” order and we haven’t been hit terribly bad with the virus. Heck, Lowe’s parking lot was jam packed Sunday afternoon.

Yes, companies and businesses, large and small, are laying people off…but there are also companies who are begging for workers. Brian works in the grocery business and they are hiring like crazy.

Also, it is tax season and most people have gotten or will get their tax return. The government just sent out a stimulus payment to tax payers (the amount would cover two months of rent in my apartments) and unemployment is paying more than your average hourly worker makes in our state.

So what has my panties in a wad….

I have a real beef with the people who are TELLING people not to pay rent. I heard it just this past week on the Bobby Bones show…Barbara Corcoran, Shark Tank panelist and NYC real estate tycoon, telling people to NOT pay their rent…landlords can’t evict you so just don’t pay it.

Okay, first….WRONG. The federal government has stopped evictions on HUD housing and properties with HUD loans…but I am not a HUD housing project and I do not have a HUD or government backed loan. Nor do many landlords. So yes, we can evict.

Here is the catch…an eviction process is costly and time consuming. While it may sound simple, it is not. I personally have to hire an attorney because the properties are in a corporation…while I could do the filing myself, I cannot legally.

I would rather work with a tenant than go through the hassle.

So, here’s my soap box…

First, you have to have shelter. It is a necessity. In my case, I also pay all the utilities and water is always top on the list of “have to haves”…that is why I say I provide two essentials to life.

Second, NOTHING should take priority over your housing expenses. Except maybe food…and there are places that literally give it away. Car loan? Defer it…the banks are working with people. Court fines? Defer it…courts are working with people. Student loans, credit cards, furniture rentals…all things that can be DEFERRED for the time being.

Don’t even get me started on cigarettes and booze. If you can still buy either and not pay your rent…wow…just wow!

Your landlord still has things they HAVE to pay even if you don’t. A mortgage…most of us have a mortgage on that property. Property taxes…the state isn’t going to let that one slide! Property insurance…haven’t gotten anything from State Farm saying I don’t have to pay insurance for the next few months. The bug guy…that reason should be obvious! Utilities…yes, some are “deferring” utility payments…but I still owe it and will still have to pay it! And then there are all the taxes and fees I have to pay yearly, quarterly and monthly…holy crud!

Maintenance…if your water heater/stove/HVAC/refrigerator goes out…you want it fixed. If a water line bursts or the sewer line breaks (both happened this past year to the tune of over $5K) you want them repaired. If your roof leaks, you want it fixed. If your window gets busted out, you want it replaced. Yes, things still break and still need to be fixed…imagine having to pay for a new water heater, refrigerator, and stove all in one month…welcome to my world…plus some!

The sad thing about this “just don’t pay mentality” is that it really hurts the elderly and disabled. They are going to get a check every month…and they are going to pay their rent. But because the other tenants don’t pay I can’t afford to replace refrigerators or fix stoves or repair the HVAC for the elderly and disabled.

Because you don’t use every resource you have to pay your rent…your tax return or stimulus check, unemployment, car loan, dig ditches…whatever…THEY SUFFER!!!!

Also, I would like to point out that NO ONE encourages you to just walk into grocery stores (or Wal-Mart or Target or any convenient store) and just TAKE what you think you need or want. Food, shoes, personal products. No, that is theft…you can’t just walk in and take what you need just because you don’t have any money…you can’t just drive up to a gas station and fill up your car and drive off without paying because you don’t have a job. They, just like landlords, have overhead and expenses. They, just like landlords, don’t have the ability to just GIVE everyone things they need.

If you still resent the hell out of your landlord and think all are just a bunch of money grubbing thieves, here is my suggestion…go buy your own house. You take on the financial responsibility of owning a home…you take on the responsibility of paying the taxes and insurance…you fix or replace the refrigerator or stove or HVAC or water heater. You replace the roof when it leaks. Mow and maintain the yard.

Go get a loan, buy a house, and take on the responsibility.

If you cannot or will not do that, then maybe, just maybe, you should be thankful that there are people out there willing to take on the RISKS AND RESPONSIBILITIES so you can have a roof over your head.

In the meantime, remember you have a responsibility to do EVERYTHING in your power to pay your rent. You have a responsibility to make it a PRIORITY!

In spite of what some people spew irresponsibly on national radio.

I wish I had the financial ability to just “give” everyone a place to live, free of charge. I do not. I am living week to week just like everyone else. I am still going to work every day to make sure my tenants have what they need.

I will stand down now…

All that being said, I do have a very “uplifting” post prepared that I had originally planned to post this week…so I may post it tomorrow. Just a few tips on staying positive during these trying times…stay tuned!


Time for a little "spring sprucing"...

A few years ago (okay so SEVEN years ago) I shared a little makeover on my storage/garden shed….

This is the perfect time of the year to complete this kind of project...too early in most places to plant flowers but warm enough most days to paint! Even though we are past our “freeze date” and temps were in the 80s last week, we actually had snow this week. I have learned to wait a few extra weeks to plant tender annuals…they just seem to fair better long term.

Let's be honest...storage sheds can be a real eye sore. But with a tiny bit of imagination and a little "oops" paint from your local home improvement store, they can easily be transformed. They have paint for every type of material...plastic, metal, wood! Hose it down first, then use a good exterior primer and GET CREATIVE!!!!

Is your storage shed one of those ugly "barn" shaped things? Paint it to look like a REAL barn. (Barn red with white trim! Google it!)

No windows in your shed? Paint fake ones...seriously, just paint a fake window. Maybe some shutters...real or painted!  Attach a little flower box and put some flowers in it

Same with the door...paint it to look like mine! Or a pretty atrium door. Hang a grapevine wreath on it...anything to doll it up a bit!

Attach fake light fixtures or hang lanterns! (Mine are real light fixtures, but they don''t work!)

Again, google "garden sheds" or "storage buildings" and find something you think is cute and "fake" it! Pinterest has some awesome pictures of dolled up storage and garden sheds!

Anything to make it look like something other than a boring old storage shed.

This is a great weekend project for the entire family. Who cares if you drip paint all over the yard...PERFECT project for the kids! (Kids always think they want to help paint...always!) 

Turn your ugly old storage shed into something other than an "eye sore!" You won't regret it!

AND YOU CAN DO IT!!!!